Comments on: Grandparents Babysitting – Do You Allow it?

By: Yashy

Yashy — Fri, 15 Apr 2016 20:52:05 +0000

In reply to Lucky Kabir. YEs.. social babies make for social adults :)

By: Lucky Kabir

Lucky Kabir — Fri, 15 Apr 2016 11:51:23 +0000

I live with my In-laws and they absolutely love to take care of our baby. Actually, we are a lot relieved as they stay with us. And Fida, my girl, also loves their company a lot. It actually is important for your baby to socialize.

By: Yashy

Yashy — Fri, 26 Feb 2016 15:33:46 +0000

In reply to Tori. Totally love that they are into it... grandbabies keep them super happy I bet!

By: Tori

Tori — Thu, 25 Feb 2016 16:38:03 +0000

My parents go crazy if they don’t see my children regularly. We moved to a town half an hour away, and shortly thereafter, they listed the house they lived in for 20 years, picked up and moved to within a few blocks because they didn’t “want to be more than 10 minutes away from the kids”… I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard, “It’s been awhile since we’ve seen the kids”, and it’s been literally 3 days. Both of my parents have great, special relationships with all 3 of my children. Their own bonds, inside jokes, quirks. More often than not, it’s my parents asking for the kids to come over and to have sleepovers, than it is the kids asking (although they ask quite often. as well)… My parents love babysitting, and I love having that option. It’s mutually beneficial, and I think it provides our kids with some great memories. I’m glad that they’ll have these memories and bonds with my parents, since my own grandparents were quite absent.

By: Yashy

Yashy — Thu, 28 Jan 2016 01:49:38 +0000

In reply to Maryanne. I'm so sorry to hear that. I have seen your side of the story before in my own circle as well and it's a tough one. My advice to them have been to lean on friends like us who are happy to watch their kids on date nights and most definitely during emergencies. I hope you have a close knit circle of friends to fall back on. It's definitely tough when the grandparents aren't able or don't want to be fully hands on.

By: Maryanne

Maryanne — Wed, 27 Jan 2016 18:39:27 +0000

Not all parents are those type of grandparents. Both of my parents are still living. My father has always refused to baby sit any of his grandkids out of “fairness”. My mother will make an excuse last minute on why she can’t take them. If do get her to look after your kid (because you were REALLY suck and it was an emergency), it becomes a point that she can complain about. How it put her out (even though she doesn’t work or do any activities out of the home). Never once have my parents offered to have the kids over.

I get sad that my in laws have both passed because they would have been much better grandparents.

By: Yashy

Yashy — Mon, 25 Jan 2016 14:56:58 +0000

In reply to Sandra Azar. Yes! My grandmother is still a force to reckon with and is very hands on in raising my teenage cousins and I'm looking forward to visiting us very soon.

By: Sandra Azar

Sandra Azar — Sun, 24 Jan 2016 13:22:51 +0000

My parents helped me with my child a lot when he was young, so I’m all agree to let grandparents babysitting as long as they are still healthy and fexible and able to keep our child safe 🙂 I think almost all of us are lucky that we had some good memories with our grandparents right?

By: Yashy

Yashy — Fri, 22 Jan 2016 02:54:30 +0000

In reply to Salma.

Control has definitely been the keyword with this issue – it’s all about striking that right balance. I’m glad to hear you guys are closer to family now.

By: Salma

Salma — Thu, 21 Jan 2016 18:13:13 +0000

It is definitely tough to give up all that control and not know what’s going on with the kids. But it’s all nice to have time away. For the first 4 years of having kids, we didn’t have any grandparents around, so now that we have moved back, I definitely appreciate them!